I was asked a question along the lines of “What type of mediation do you do? Are you strictly facilitative or are you determinative or are you transformative…” You get the idea. The answer was that I am facilitative, but...I will mediate in accordance with the needs and requirements of the parties. I contest that I am skilled and experienced to mediate however required of me. Mediator skills training as I have seen it, and I have been trained and accredited by two of the leading mediation training bodies, is like learning to drive. You may learn some new skills, though often you have them already, but with training you learn how to apply them at mediation. You then go off, if you are lucky, and mediate, and you develop your own style. In fact, you develop your own styles, as no mediation is the same and you, as mediator, may be required to be different things to different people in the same mediation. Learning to drive doesn’t teach you how to drive like Starsky & Hutch. That comes with driving, and dare I say it, life experience. It is the same for mediation – mediators can be facilitative and determinative in the same mediation. Being a good mediator is about adapting to the conditions of the road and giving the parties safe passage to their destination - hopefully in the form of a settlement agreement.